When Baby Girl Decides Not To Be Mommy's Little "Mini Me" Anymore?
The dynamics between mothers and daughters can sometimes be a very complicated and complex relationship. When moms have daughters it is very natural for the mom to turn her little princess into what we call her "mini me". I mean come on , how cute is it to dress baby girl up just like you , play dress up, and proclaim an image for her in order to mold her into the goddess that she is. However sometimes things can get a little out of control causing unhealthy boundaries. What happens when "mini me" decides she wants to grow up and have an identity outside of her mom?
So often on social media I see mothers get into the habit of comparing their daughters to them or even comparing themselves to their daughters. I hate to bust your bubble , but you are not your daughter and your daughter is not you.
The two of you have completely different identities, personalities, and life purpose to embrace in your journey.
Yes baby girl loves THE FACT that she has mommy as a guide to provide her with strength and morals on her journey of becoming a woman, but when your lil mini me begins forming an abstract way of thinking and decides to explore into self you must allow her to release her inner powers and cultivate self expression.
Abstract thinking for children during cognitive development begins between the ages of 6 and 12, and is a very crucial point for children to learn who they are by diving into self expression.
As a mom it is important for you to allow your daughter to continue to search the soul within to unleash who she is.... not who you want her to be.
When mothers put restrictions on the self expression of their daughters it depletes their creativity and lowers their self esteem. It also makes them question if it's wrong to be who they are.
I love the scripture Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations"
This proves that you and baby girl are not the same and that you are just a guide in her life to show her love, compassion, grace, discipline, share lessons and enhance her creativity by allowing her to embrace the fullness of herself.