Understanding Those Who Are Suicidal
The world of social media is very cruel at times and can reveal just how evil some people are, lacking compassion and natural affection.When someone is suicidal, a person’s mental health and state is dramatically impacted, causing the issue of suicide to be a highly unlikeable laughing matter!
The internet broke news of Kehlani’s recent suicide attempt, after accusations rose about the Bay area R&B singer cheating on her ex boyfriend , NBA player, Kyrie Irving. Some celebrities and social media spectators voiced extremely hurtful comments that would have made any person cringe and quiver!
Having no filter with ‘word choices’ can make those hiding behind their screens feel as if they are invisible. But words to the wise! You’re not! In fact your character and integrity stinks!
One artist in particular expressed complete outrage, suggesting that Kehlani was looking for attention and sympathy. Chris Brown wrote on twitter
“There is no attempting suicide. Stop flexing for the gram. Doing shit for sympathy so them comments under your pics don’t look so bad. “ “I’ll be the BIGGEST PIECE OF (the poop emoji) But ima ride for my Homies regardless. KYRIE is probably one of the only good guys left. IDGAF!!!” OK IM DONE. Guess she gone have to watch the games from a real “box” now. “THE TELEVISION” #OHB “OUTTA HERE BIH”
Dang Chris , you’re really great at what you do and all, big fan of your music but couldn’t you have at least waited to state whatever opinions you had about Kehlani’s relationship issues (leaving the suicide attempt comment out), after she was out of the hospital and recovering!
The worst part about Chris’s tweets is that other artists such as Rapper Da Brat agreed.
What about the fans who are suicidal? Suicide is the second leading cause of death for 15-24 year olds!
Many people have a misinterpretation on what it means to be suicidal. Anyone is PRONED to having suicidal thoughts at least once in their life.
To understand suicide, one has to dive into understanding depression, mental illness, and mental health.
As a trained suicide prevention specialist who worked in the school systems talking to the youth on mental health awareness, suicide prevention, positive coping skills and how to get to the right resources when in crisis, I decided to take this time as a teaching opportunity.
Mental health includes a human’s emotional, psychological, and social well-being, that affects how one thinks, feels, and acts. Mental health determines how stress is handled,how people make decisions with their life and is essential at every stage of life.
A person’s mental health can be affected by everyday emotions including happiness, joy, sadness,fear, hurt, life’s current or past circumstances, repressed memories, depression, and other mental illnesses.
Depression is a form of mental illness that can occur in anyone. Depression can range from the blues to chronic. Some of the symptoms are listed below
Eating or sleeping too much or too little
Pulling away from people and usual activities
Having low or no energy
Feeling numb or like nothing matters
Having unexplained aches and pains
Feeling helpless or hopeless
Having thoughts of suicide
Because anyone can experience some sort of depression in their life, it’s a bit critical to judge Kehlani’s mental health. Being suicidal or slipping into depression does not make a person crazy! However, it is very vital that someone facing this condition gets to the proper resources.
It’s not that those who are suicidal truly want to die, it’s that they want everything that is currently making them feel low to disappear. Those who are suicidal may not have another outlet and think that suicide may be the only option available. If people are given healthy and positive coping skills to handle their stressors, then they may be able to handle life’s transitions and rollercoasters more smoothly.
If you believe someone is suicidal, as a friend you can use this as an opportunity to try to save someone’s life.
And here’s how you can help!
-Ask the direct question “Are you thinking of killing yourself or are you suicidal”
-Ask do you have a plan
-Do not make judgmental statements such ‘ you’re being selfish, what about everyone who loves you’ ( it’s not about you or everyone else, it’s about them)
-Listen to how they are feeling
-Ask who can we go to in order to get you to the right help
-If the person says no one , refer them to a counselor, pastor, family member, as well as call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline @ 1 (800) 273-8255 or 911.
-Stay with that person until you get them to immediate help!
It doesn’t matter if you believe that Kehlani was just trying to get attention, more fans, or even think that her suicide attempt was silly because it was over a relationship. Kehlani’s safety was in danger and so is anyone’s life who may be suicidal. You never know what someone is truly going through so have a bit of compassion and empathy to get that person the help they need!
Remember when someone is saying they want to die and are thinking of completing suicide , believe them!
What do you think of how people are treating Kehlani?